Most of us carry a huge amount of psychological ‘baggage’ around with us as we age and this affects our health in a very negative way. I think age only gives us a more comprehensive perspective on life and that true wisdom comes when we understand and accept ourselves. The pieces of negative ‘baggage’ I want to talk about in this blog are regrets and resentments.
Even though in am in my mid- sixties it has taken me this long to no longer regret the mistakes I have made along the way because I have only just realized that mistakes are a part of the learning process. We don’t stop learning until we die. I remember someone in my profession telling me that he didn’t need any more ongoing education because he knew everything he needed to know. This shocked me as I try to use every opportunity to educate myself – to me this perception doesn’t make sense but part of this acceptance is knowing that making mistakes is an integral part of learning.
A lot of people seem to be stuck in a time warp because they fear making mistakes – but one of our largest mistakes is this fear of making mistakes. We also tend to make the same mistakes over and over again. This fear and this self-destructive pattern affect our health immeasurably. You can’t change your past (and I’m not going to get into the Quantum argument of past, present and future happening at the same time here) so why punish yourself by reliving it over and over again?
To get yourself out of this syndrome if this idea resonates with you, practice the mental skill of living in the present. This way of thinking helps you get rid of living with regret. So ask yourself as to whether living with regret helps you in any way in achieving a healthier, more fulfilling life?
Unconscious people do unconscious things and living with resentment of some person or some situation you have found yourself in is another piece of psychological ‘baggage’ we carry around that doesn’t help us in any way. If you still carry resentments around against people who you feel have affected you in a negative way means that these people still hold a power over you that adversely affects your health. Understanding that unconscious people do unconscious things to other people will help you get over this resentment and move on with your life.
Learning to step out of your ‘story’ at least on occasions and be the observer of your own thoughts is the simplest way of ridding yourself of negative emotions. This may be a simple idea but it is the hardest to put into practice because we are controlled by our Egotic mind. By this ‘stepping out’ to observe your thoughts, you will gain control if you desire it. Personally I have found that the easiest way to do this for me is to step out of my mind and into my body. That way I get in touch with feelings rather than emotions. Whatever works you you?